“ . . .I would like to beg you dear Sir, as well as I can, to have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don’t search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer.” Rainer Maria Rilke
What’s up everybody.
Today I was just in the mood to write something and I’m coming off a three day weekend so I’m actually caught up to the point where I feel I have the time to do it.
Right now I’m at a stage in my life where I’ve come to accept my circumstances, although I’m not happy with them. The past few months have gone a little something like this. Work long, dense days that are mentally draining and stressful, come home with little energy, have no desire to do all the things I used to enjoy, and just a constant struggle to keep up. Throw onto this, the stress and commitment needed for a job search, plus buying a new car, attempting to sell my old car and basically I’m burnt out.
If you’ve read my blog you know I value optimism. You know I believe in accepting responsibility for your life circumstances and taking action to change. For me to sit here and tell you I’m drained and burnt out doesn’t sound like such a positive perspective but it’s the reality of the situation. I was plugging away for months with a positive attitude and I hit the point where I realized some drastic changes need to be made.
Right now I’m in the process of making the necessary changes, but these things take time. I mentioned that I’ve become accepting of my circumstances and this is true. I accept the fact that my current job makes me miserable. I accept the fact that I’m perpetually tired. I accept the fact that a job search requires a lot of work on top of my heavy days. I accept everything about where I’m at because I know it’s temporary. I know a few months from now my hard work will have paid off, and I’ll be in a better place.
I can’t say where I’ll be, or how long it will take, but I know I won’t stop until I make it. And when I do, I’ll look back at this stage of my life and it really won’t have mattered, or have seemed nearly as bad as it does right now. Knowing that these circumstances are only temporary allows me to make peace with what is. My external circumstances are chaotic, but internally I am at ease. Am I constantly exhausted? Yes, but when I create a better balance and a more enjoyable life, it will be that much more appreciated having been where I am now.
The point I’m trying to make is that change takes time. There will always be periods of transition and plateaus in life, and when you’re on one of those plateaus it can be extremely frustrating. These emotions can destroy you if you allow them to.
Throughout these tough times I’ve learned a few lessons. Life isn’t always going to work out the way you planned it to. There is no certainty but that’s ok. Just stick to your values and what you know to be right, and keep moving forward until you get to where you want to be.
Finding a job in your ideal career path isn’t always easy. When you know what you want specifically, it’s not always easy to land a job doing something that particular. There are only so many positions out there and from my experience, it’s currently a tough job market. If you want something you’re going have to persevere through a lot of effort and rejection.
My current position was the first job I applied for. After my recent job search I have a new found respect for those who cannot find employment. I used to always say it was there if you were willing to do whatever it takes to find it. I still believe this, but sometimes it can take a long time to accomplish. You may have to go weeks without getting a call back from countless job applications, even with a strong resume. That’s just the way it is right now. If you’re in this situation, keep at it, try new things, constantly improve your resume, do whatever it takes to make yourself stand out, complete every application thoroughly and work your social circle for as many referrals and references you possibly can.
My job search has been an eye opener as well as a learning experience. When you’re in the job market and interviewing, you really get to find out first hand what opportunities are out there. I can talk about many different career paths, who the key employers are, where the best paying positions are and which companies are rapidly hiring and expanding.
More important than that, I’ve learned that it’s ok to struggle. It’s ok for your life to hit a low point in certain areas. These circumstances force you to grow as a person. They test you and really challenge you to stay grounded in your beliefs. It’s easy to be optimistic when life is good. The real challenge is keeping a positive attitude while experiencing nothing but stress, rejection, and a constant overwhelmed feeling. It won’t be easy but you will acquire deep self-knowledge when thrown into those circumstances. Are you truly someone who is intelligent enough to stay positive and rooted in what you know to be right, or will you crumble under the frustration and negative emotions that taunt you when nothing is going your way?
You may slip up at times and that’s ok. For awhile I was defeated. But I rose up again and forced my mind into a better place.
Anyways, a lot of people who talk about positivity and self help will never show signs of vulnerability. They want you to believe they are always happy 100% of the time and that their lives are perfect. That’s impossible and although I don’t want to be a negative influence, I think its invaluable to keep it real.
I preach optimism, hard work, and taking responsibility, not because my life is so perfect and easy, but because it’s not perfect, or easy. Because I understand the benefits of having a strong mindset and empowering set of beliefs.
Whatever you may be going through, whatever you may be dealing with, keep your head up, keep pushing forward, and understand that this too will pass. When you’ve been to the bottom, you can truly appreciate it when you make it to the top.
That’s all I’ve got. I hope this has gotten you thinking.by