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The Meaning of Life by Greg Malouf
If you were created into perfection and knew no other reality, how would you know it was perfection? How would you know perfection if you did not know imperfection, good if you didn’t know bad, peace without chaos and stress, or love without fear and loneliness?
Why does this matter?
Because in these dichotomies lie the true meaning of life, the purpose of living on earth in physical form. We are HERE to experience the full range of human emotions, to feel everything through our physical senses. In this way, we can truly know love, love that we were created into which holds existence together.
Love exists in many forms: acceptance, openness, compassion, caring, joy, bliss, generosity, sharing, fun, happiness, forgiveness, and peace to name a few. How would you feel if I said to you all of these are inherent gifts that you possess at the core of your being, that you are nothing other than pure love and that the realities that we play out here are in fact an illusion we manifest to truly know these attributes of love?
Today I wanted to put together a list of key concepts for achieving what you want and becoming successful. I’ve come up with a list of ten ideas that I think are crucial and will discuss below.
#1 Time is a finite resource and the only thing you can truly never get back. With that being said, time is your most valuable resource and you must have enough self respect to use your time wisely. Identify inefficiencies and habits that do not add value to your life and eliminate them.
Some examples that I’ve noticed were years ago I used to waste time watching TV. I still do on occasion but nowhere near as much as I used to. Maybe 4 hours a week at best. Instead I’ll read a book. When someone takes the time to write a book they’re usually putting their best foot forward, assembling the highest quality information they have to offer and are functioning at a high state of consciousness.
By reading this type of material you’re forcing your mind to access this higher state as well. Watching TV will put you in a trance like state, make you open to suggestion, usually provide a brief 15 minute generalized overview of some arbitrary subject matter saturated with commercials. Just making this one change will bring massive compounding returns over the course of your life.
“All men have fears, but the brave put down their fears and go forward, sometimes to death, but always to victory” - How to Win Friends and Influence People
Just a few minutes ago I felt compelled to write a new post and as usual, I wanted to just speak what’s on my mind and let it develop into whatever subject that may come out. I was pondering a few thoughts on happiness, what creates it, why it can be so abundant at times, and other times so out of reach. This thought led me to think about the moments I’ve felt most thrilled with life, must fulfilled and most happy. It always happens when you take action, when you achieve something great, when you’re interacting with people and really connect with them. To me these are some of the things that happy moments are made of. Then I realized that a lot of times, we aren’t living in a way that creates a constant flow of these moments and a big part of what prevents them is fear. And I’m not going to sit here and write on a subject as basic as overcoming fear which has been talked about in an idealized way over and over again. I want to put a focus on preconditioning and how society plays such a drastic role in creating most of our fears.
I’ve taken a lot of time off from writing to focus on other things, but I realize how beneficial it was for me to get my thoughts down on paper in the past, so I’ve decided to put something new together today. I guess the best way to explain my most recent absence is, I finally broke out of a long term struggle and obtained the outcome I’d been searching for. While in the midst of that struggle I had a lot of determination, drive and emotion that fueled me to write passionately about whatever topic I was relating to at the time. Now that that particular struggle is over, I’ve been enjoying the fact that all the work and persistence paid off. A few months ago if you would have asked if I truly believed I’d accomplish my goal, I don’t know if I could have answered yes with complete certainty. I do know that I would have been able to tell you I was committed to working towards it however long it may take. And that answers over time guarantees the desired outcome. Enough of the background, I said today was going to be different so let’s get down to it. Instead of an elaborate reflection on life experience, self development and positivity, today I’m going to simply list out some valuable lessons and perspective. I hope that anyone reading can save this list and refer back to it whenever you need to come back into alignment with these lessons and values. On that note, let’s begin:
When I started my journey into conscious self development I set out on that course because I wanted to improve my life. I wanted to improve the person I was becoming and I wanted to continuously grow in every area of my life. There was hope for a better future, better relationships, more success, more happiness and achievement. I believe that if I could grow in all these areas of my life, I could obtain all the things I ever wanted out of life and ultimately achieve a feeling of fulfillment.
Those were all great ideals, but often times the fantasy is better than the reality. I’m not saying I made a mistake setting out in that direction because that’s far from the truth. The topic I want to discuss today is based upon quality problems. Issues that arise as a result of progress. Specifically, when you set out to improve yourself, improve your life and grow as an individual, you are starting down a path that the majority of people will never travel. And as you proceed down that path eventually you will progress towards self actualization.
The closer we become to being self actualized, the more out of touch we become with average. We eventually end up here, if you look at the arrow on this normal distribution curve.
Hey man, you wanna build some muscle man? You do? Well that’s good man, you at the write blog post.
What’s up everybody. In a previous post I mentioned how over the past years I’ve gotten into weight lifting and gained 60 pounds of mostly muscle over that time period. I received an email asking about how I was able to go about doing that and some pointers on gaining muscle so I decided I’d write a post to cover some of the basics.
Let me start out by saying that I’m tall, I naturally have a smaller frame and a very high metabolism. I was extremely skinny and decided that I wanted to do something about it. I had tried eating excessive amounts of the most fatty foods you can imagine, primarily fast food, probably taking in at least 5,000 calories a day and no matter how much I ate, I’d never gain a pound.
When that effort failed I decided it was time to take an alternate route and I joined a gym about 2 minutes from my house on July 1, 2007. At that time I weighed 150 pounds, I had no idea what I was doing and one of my goals was to bench press 135 pounds for one rep! Looking back, I can’t even imagine what it was like being that weak, but at the time it was all I had ever known.
Today I thought I’d sort of reintroduce my purpose here with this blog to mark my first in depth article since my return and also to set course in a new direction. As I said a few days ago, my older material was a great foundation but I’ve reached the point where it’s time to dig deeper. Let’s start out by explaining the web address/domain name I’ve chosen.
Choosing a domain name is not easy. You want something marketable with some alliteration, but when you come up with those type of names the demand is much higher so purchasing the domain can be costly (a few thousand dollars). Since I’m not making money here this wasn’t a reasonable investment.
Just this morning I was thinking to myself how so many people settle for an average life. They get their average education. They float by with average grades. They work an average job, with average pay and an average level of fulfillment, which isn’t very high. They spend their time doing average things like watching TV, following their favorite sports teams, reality TV shows, celebrities and whatever else the main stream tells them is important. Well I came to the realization that the average life just wasn’t good enough for me. I could live like that if I believed it would bring me happiness and fulfillment, but in my opinion, those who walk that path will never find either. They’re living their lives based on someone else’s’ values. They’re doing what they believe they’re supposed to do and their main concern is fitting in, being trendy, being able to talk about what everyone else tells them is important without ever having to use their own minds, formulate their own opinions, or decide what really matter to them in life.
Hey, I’m back! I know I fell off for awhile there but it was a necessary break to get my life back on track. I actually wrote a post between now and the last time I’ve put up any content but haven’t published it yet. All I have left to do is put the finishing touches on it and it will be released shortly. That particular article is on the topic of fear, how it’s irrational and prevents us from going after what we truly want in life. It’s a good write up, you’ll have to check it out in the near future.
Anyways, allow me to explain my absence over the past few months. As I’ve mentioned before my current job hasn’t exactly been the most positive experience. I did get to travel and do some cool things in this position, but overall that didn’t balance out the negatives. To sum it up without going into too much depth, I was working for a global bank in operations (the last place you want to be). Operations does not produce much revenue for the bank but it is necessary for the front office to function. Because what we do is all about efficiency and minimizing cost, there really isn’t much money set aside for department budgets and consequently, there isn’t much room to advance. That being said I took on responsibilities much greater than anything else happening in my department from someone who was likely being paid almost double to do the same job before. The work was tedious. I’m always up for challenging work that will help me grow but this was just tedious account reconciliation, producing a triple balance as the end result. Throw in some poor management, being overworked and underpaid and you’ve got just the right mix to drive me out of that position.
“ . . .I would like to beg you dear Sir, as well as I can, to have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don’t search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer.” Rainer Maria Rilke
What’s up everybody.
Today I’d like to talk about nothing in particular. I was just in the mood to write something and I’m coming off a three day weekend so I’m actually caught up to the point where I feel I have the time to do it. So no agenda here, I’m just going to start to go with what’s on my mind and see where that takes me.
Right now I’m at a stage in my life where I’ve come to accept my circumstances, although I’m not happy with them. The past few months have gone a little something like this. Work long dense days that are mentally draining and stressful, come home with little energy, have no desire to do all the things I used to enjoy and just a constant struggle to keep up. Throw onto this the stress and commitment needed for a job search, plus buying a new car, attempting to sell my old car and basically I’m burnt out.
If you’ve read my blog you know I value optimism. You know I believe in accepting responsibility for your life circumstances and taking action to change. For me to sit here and tell you I’m drained and burnt out doesn’t sound like
I’ve been keeping busy lately sort of restructuring a lot of things in my life and its gotten me thinking about the importance of long term planning. In the past everything I’ve been doing has been relatively short term planned, or always followed some sort of preset plan, like 4 years of college and then on to grad school. That was the plan so I knew exactly what I’d be doing those next few years.
Those days are long gone and my life sort of hit a low point in the beginning of 2012. Between a series of negative events in my personal life, on top of my professional life going through some drastic changes as well I reached a point where I knew I had to do whatever it takes to get things back on track.
It was time to rebuild my personal life, regain control of myself and advance my career up to the next stage. Now I’d love to tell you that all those things have been accomplished and life is great, but that’s not the case. I’ve taken action to get things moving in the right direction and I’ve created some big changes, however there’s still work to be done.